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So cute! Love this post! I worked with my husband for a while before we started dating during college. My mom is ALWAYS sharing how she remembers me telling her about “this one guy” who kept bugging me at work—“How’s zoology class going?” It was annoying but cutely awkward. And my mom knew I liked him. I never talked to her about the assholes.

Your sentence structure is magnificent, and your thoughts are interesting, as always. And I love the photos. My husband teases me about my “crazy-eye look.”

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Thank you, Daphne! Interesting you knew your husband for a while before you started dating. I think there is something special about romantic relationships that started as friendships—the teasing is part of that deep foundation, the knowing somebody SO well.

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Oct 21Liked by Amy Federman

I think you are very wise and you are talking about a higher form of communication. Any time anyone makes you feel better about yourself, through your communication with them any time, that's a kind of rare miracle. And it's a credit to you and a credit to them and it's more like we should all be. It is an intersectionality that would keep everyone together rather than polarize them into hating and not speaking to one another. Great post!

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Larry, thanks for reading and for this comment. I love your language of a "rare miracle." Yes! When we demonstrate deep understanding of one another, it definitely feels miraculous.

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Totally agree.

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Forgot to say that my last cat, Curtis, was the best friend i ever had. But we still befriend every dog that walks past our house.

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Thanks for reading! Curtis was special. He was definitely a welcome challenge to my "dog person" identity.

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Are you sure you weren’t writing on flirtation rather than teasing? I have never read about a courtship like your’s and Max’s. I thought I was reading a memoir. Once again, you were worth the while I spent with your writing.

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Oct 15Liked by Amy Federman

Another great story Amy. So insightful and so well crafted. 💕🌸💕🌸💕🌸

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Thanks so much! ❤️❤️❤️

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Oct 14Liked by Amy Federman

Enjoyed this post a lot. And.... I'm not surprised you came around to the wonders of cats.

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Thanks, Mara! It was only a matter of time . . . it pains me to admit that cats do indeed have their charms.

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